The feeling of infatuation is often mistaken for love, leaving us to question if true love is even possible for humans. Love, in its purest form, is unconditional. It transcends the idiosyncrasies and imperfections of others. However, there comes a time when certain behaviors become intolerable due to the emotional toll they take on us.
At the beginning of a relationship, those quirks may seem endearing. The rush of excitement and novelty overshadow any irritations. But novelty is fleeting, and reality eventually sets in.
So why do we enter relationships? We seek various benefits: companionship, security, societal validation, and more. However, relationships, like any institution, can be flawed. The moment we label them, expectations arise.
“I need constant reassurance and validation, even if it means invading your personal space.” “You should prioritize my needs and abandon your own, disregarding your happiness.”
Relationships can bring fulfillment when both parties’ needs are met. But is it sustainable? It’s no wonder that many couples find themselves trapped in unhappiness.
Often, people enter our lives with a purpose: personal growth. Relationships act as catalysts for self-improvement. Through our interactions with others, we gain insights into our own strengths and weaknesses. The individuals we attract are often what our souls need to evolve.
Have you ever wondered why opposites attract? Why introverts are drawn to extroverts? Insecure individuals may gravitate towards partners who exude confidence and self-assuredness. These dynamics allow for the exploration and healing of our own insecurities.
For instance, I once dated a guy who was an introvert and consistently attracted extroverts. His struggle with jealousy became evident. But this attraction was his soul’s way of calling him to confront and transcend his insecurities head-on.
Similarly, those who attract partners with commitment issues may struggle with trust and fear of intimacy. The patterns we encounter in our relationships often mirror the internal work our souls yearn to undertake.
Life lessons will continue to repeat until we learn from them.
To break free from negative patterns and cultivate healthier connections, we must first focus on ourselves. The idea is not to look for the right person, but to be the right person. Take a moment to make a list: who do you want to attract? What are their qualities? And most importantly, do you embody those qualities? Do you believe that you are worthy of love?
This can be a tricky question because consciously we might say, “Hell yes!” But subconsciously, we may harbor beliefs of unworthiness that we’ve internalized as children. To explore and transform these subconscious beliefs, I invite you to schedule your intro session at www.bravezone.ca/confusion-to-clarity. It’s an opportunity to delve into your subconscious and embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.
Remember, true transformation begins within. By understanding your subconscious fears around relationships, developing self-awareness, and aligning your beliefs with your conscious desires, you can create the loving and fulfilling connections you truly deserve.
